Okay, alright I agree the woman behind the successful man could be any female such as a fierce and powerful mother, or the highly-placed aunt, or his sister in Qatar, or the loyal, dutiful and reliable wife, or his well connected mistress or even the rich sugar-mummy. But this thread isn't about any of them but just about one particular female - the girlfriend.
I am referring to an imaginary guy/young man who haven't just got the potential to be successful but is also focused (not over-ambitious), diligent (not misguided by yawu-yawu or soccer gambling), and determined (not desperate) to give whatever it takes to realize his financial-making goal as when due but as it said, that no matter when and how he eventually excels, there ought to be a female in his life!
Therefore...I'm actually asking from a perspective that seek to
RECONCILE the argument that:
Should a guy becomes successful without the aid, assistance or input of any females whatsoever but gradually develops 'trust issues' while looking for 'true love' as he becomes skeptical because of how hard it is for him to determine which of these babes genuinely loves him for his personality, despite his flaws and not because of his financial success
The argument given by a lady who argues that it would be safer to have multiple potentialists but more of already-made guys/men as 'boyfriends' or 'suitors' rather than risking being faithfully attached and patiently waiting for one prosperity-certain guy, all because of love, who, after breaking through at the end of the day, may decide to ditch her for someone prettier, sexier, curvier etc who did nothing and without him considering all the time, sacrifices and efforts given.
I have for long given this dichotomy some serious thought and now decide to bring it to your honored attention...so ladies, guys, fiends and friends..how valid does the saying ...behind every successful man, there is a woman applies in our Nigeria society ?